FUN W/ BOB

rumsfeld is a mean man & he kicks babies

dear god, stop believing the hype you see on tv. stop chanting to oprah, the god of over-dramatic and women's misinformation. 

yes, your looks do matter. i swear it. anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. and furthermore, i can tell you what those lies are in this short segment, as there are only 4.33 categories they fall into:

1. you're exceptionally beautiful, and the gent is merely trying to appeal to your more sensitive side, in an effort to court you.

2. you're an exceptionally ugly friend or friend of a friend, and the gent is merely trying to save your feelings, as he doesn't want the weight (which may be tremendous, hint hint) of your suicide on his hands. this also includes relationships where you have gotten ugly, and he doesn't want to start a no-win argument. 

3. you're exceptionally ugly, but your friend(s) is/are really really hot. in this circumstance, the gent is trying to appeal to your good-looking friends' more sensitive side. he realizes that this comment appeals to your sensitive side, and since you're ugly and most likely often without affection, you will be in a rush to tell your good-looking counterparts what a dazzling man you've just met. thus, word quickly spreads, and now he's appealed to the good-looking girls, as well. now your friends know you're ugly too, and also know that even though the gent says looks don't matter, they have a better chance of winning him than you do... he tells you this lie in hopes of courting your hot friend.

4. you're exceptionally ugly, and the gent is gay. 'nuff said.

0.33 you're exceptionally ugly, and your friends/family don't want to hurt your feelings. This is especially true of girlfriends, as it is beneficial to them to have an ugly duckling around. typically, with a scale of 1 to 10, having an ugly buddy increases ones appeal at least a point and a half. better by comparison, you know. also, you may reference #'s 2 and 3 above.

i have read articles on men who were once with sight, only to be without later in life. these men were disgusted to admit that when hearing about a new colleague or other acquaintance that was female, they would ask their seeing-eye friends if she was good looking or not, despite the fact they would never register visual beauty again in their lifetimes.

in all my life, i have never heard anyone say "look at her over there. man, I bet she has a great personality." it is a simple fact of life that we a visual creatures first. we process some 90% of the information we receive visually. is it really any wonder that such a thing as beauty, a classically visual element, matters? things like this are hard-wired into our brains. we associate beauty with other winning qualities, although admittedly not always accurately so. really. studies show this to be true. hell, tv documentaries show this to be true. we all know it to be true; it is so very intuitive. let's stop avoiding it.

i am not telling you this to be mean. in fact, i am trying to be the nice guy. i want you to know the truth, so you can better yourself and stand a chance out there in that dating game jungle, or just keep a happy relationship going. trust me.

i don't want to imply that looks are everything. i have a girl. she's beautiful. but she's more than that, too. and, if but one part of her were missing, she wouldn't be what I wanted. beauty is included in that tally, by the way. but so is intelligence, compassion, passion, depth of thought, feelings, sharing, honesty, intensity, affection, loyalty, etc. if she weren't loyal to me, i wouldn't want to rely on her. if she weren't compassionate, i would not want to be with her. if she had very shallow feelings, again I would not want to be her mate. 

we all have many things to offer. if beauty were all my girl lacked, she'd still be everything else. but, if that were the case, i would never know that to begin with. we have a short time on earth, and not enough of it to become deeply acquainted with everyone; we have a very short while to find what we think we want, and we use beauty to help speed that quest along. so, if you want to have the opportunity to prove you are a worthwhile endeavor, you must package it in the best way possible. to an extent, it is like good marketing: you have a great product, but you need to be able to let everyone know, otherwise your great product will just go unnoticed.

trust me. take it from a former ugly duckling. i spent many years being skinny and undesirable before i got angry enough to fight it. and i can attest it really is nice to have others want to see what you have to offer, even if you're taken or not interested. but, more on my transformation later. right now, concentrate on bettering yourself. hit the gym. find a look that suits you, and shows you off. take care of yourself. you'll be infinitely better for it.

peace.